I remember sitting in my car years ago, waiting for my child to finish another Bar Mitzvah lesson. It was always a tedious hour, for him and for me.
Until one day he discovered there actually was meaning tucked deeply behind all those Hebrew words.
And he started to enjoy them.
And I discovered Nora Ephron.
And fell totally in love with her words.
I devoured all her books while waiting in that car.
I Remember Nothing.
I Feel Bad About My Neck.
When Harry Met Sally.
My son got through his Bar Mitzvah which turned out to be an astonishing experience for him. I got through it too, with Nora’s help. She was witty, funny, brilliantly acerbic, and more than anything, very bloody honest.
She died in 2012. Leukemia. Age 71 – young.
Last nightI saw the documentary ‘Everything is Copy’ made by her son, about her life and her death. It’s fantastic and sad and funny and really worth seeing.
Nora Ephron was attractive, but not in a classic way and definitely not in a Hollywood way. But she had such a brightness about her, such an amazing personality, that she oozed sex appeal. There was no plastic surgery for her, definitely no botox and no daily sessions at the gym.
It was all about confidence. Intelligence. And honesty.
My son grew hugely in confidence during his lessons.
And I think I did too.
This documentary reminded me that life is not about beauty. But it is about being real. Self assured. Aware.
And about being brutally honest. When the time is right.
Seek out the documentary. It’s worth seeing. Even in death, Nora can still teach us a lot.
Especially about the importance of moisturiser.
And not giving a fuck about your neck.